tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4808673931746006448.post7585136559243897477..comments2023-09-13T06:15:12.887-07:00Comments on A Joyful Life: What is normal?lovejoy_31http://www.blogger.com/profile/08916054109678188624noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4808673931746006448.post-89200315241125358682012-01-08T08:55:55.620-08:002012-01-08T08:55:55.620-08:00I know it doesn't seem like it....but it will ...I know it doesn't seem like it....but it will come. I hated with people say things to me "one day you'll only think of the good, and won't think of the fact that she's not here anymore"...I thought, how can I NOT think about the fact that I no longer have my mother here with me? My son's Nana? Its been five years. And I still have days where it consumes me....but I also have days where I can't help but smile in thinking about her and what she would be saying/thinking if she were still here with me, and of good times together. Everyone is different in their grieving, and we all have our very dark times....Right around Thanksgiving this year I was practically useless...grief consumed me and things got very dark and sad....but you have your family to help pull you up by your bootstraps and bring you back into your reality and your life now. I hate to be one of those people I hated that would always say positive things about the worst thing that ever happened to me...but honestly, sincerely, it will get easier. As mush as it sucks to think that...because really, sometimes I thought "easier" meant forgetting, and her memory not being as fresh in my mind....but it doesn't. Its just different memories. <3Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com